Sometimes I really wish I didn't get emotionally involved in other people's lives; my therapist even told me that I got too invested in the things I couldn't help, but I ignored him. Maybe if I didn't care so much, I'd be better off, you know? Less stress, better emotional stability...
Times like this make mecwant to curl up in my bed with the blankets over my head and my headphones, pretending that other people's problems don't exist. It doesn't matter how much I care about the person--actually, that's a lie: the more I care about the person, the more emotionally involved I get in his/her life, and the more painful it is for me.
I made a Facebook status awhile Bach, jokingly complaining about how everyone seemed to com to me for advice; my mom even took a picture of me and made a "Ask ___" sign for me. The thing is, my friends only come to me when I have nothing but my intuition to back my advice; when I have real experience in where certain choices lead you, they ignore my attempts to talk and blow me off when I call. It's frustrating to no end. If I could, I'd probably strangle quite a few of my friends on a regular basis because I think they're incredibly stupid.
Oh well. I guess itvdoesntbmatter how much you love a person, you can't force them to grow the he'll up and realize what he/she is doing, more's the pity.
I am going to take some advice a close friend gave me and twist it around a little: if you're allowed to be doing the stupid shit you're doing, then I'm allowed to cut. They're both equally detrimental, andbi don't care how you justify it to yourself.
I know how you feel. I feel the same way. It hurts. But all we can do is be there for them when they need us. I truly care about them, so I cant turn my back on them no matter how bad things get.
ReplyDeleteSometimes you have to take therapeutic stand. Divide your feelings sometimes. The only way I can put it is this -- when you are talking to a friend, yes, you care; however, you can't let their problems becomes your own. In the end, you listen, give some advice, and don't let their feelings, problems, emotions rule you or weigh you down. It is a harsh point of view, but it helps you help them more because *your* emotions aren't in turmoil and you can think clearly and give logical advice because you aren't hysterical.
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